The other day in the Thoughtful Raven Members Room call we were talking about boundaries.

Which might sound farcical to you, especially if you arrived here through a psychological paradigm that said you can be perfectly okay in any circumstance.

I'm going to use a word that comes up a lot for me: levels!

YOU are always perfectly okay - you awareness, the essence of all being, the open capcacity to know experience.

And an element of that known experience is the first person experience of being Sara. As a character, Sara can be overwhelmed or hurt, even while awareness is perfectly okay.

The okayness, in its infinite wisdom, holds the possibility of expereincing itself as though not-okay.

So, at the level of this first person experience of mind-body-soul, boundaries make sense. These might be instinctive and natural boundaries. Or, if you are deconditioning from trauma, these might be conscious and practised boundaries.

Think of a boundary as energetically taking up your space in the world - body and aura/electrical field. It's the way a human can meet another human, when both are showing up fully.

A boundary is an expression of our innate wholeness in this experience of self-in-a-world. It is not a threat, a compromise, a protection, a rule.

It is the moment by moment honouring of all of experience, including this first person human perspective.

Love, Sara


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  • Sara Priestley
    These days I hang out with my little cat colony, drink a lot of coffee, help clients solve life problems, support people who have been hurt by cult-like groups, host my local poetry society’s online gatherings, read, write, teach nonduality, and play with this expanded understanding of who we are and how it shows up. And it’s so simple. But simple doesn’t always come easy when we have a lifetime of conditioning on top. So, I’m here to help you uncover that simplicity, and reconnect with life.

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