When I started learning to drive, the teacher showed me how to keep myself the right distance from the kerb by using a certain point on the wiper blades.

Which worked pretty well, until IT RAINED.

What he'd wanted to teach me was how to align myself in my lane. What he actually taught me was to steer according to where the kerb sat in relation to that point.

He'd given me a proxy to focus on, which simplified the task, but only up to a point. And after that point it was a bit chaotic for a while.

The same thing happens in awakening. whenever we focus on a proxy as a measure of awakeness. For example, how a relationship looks, or physical pain, or…

Have you ever found your focus set on a proxy that stopped serving you? Maybe you've just spotted one now?

With Love, Sara

  • Sara Priestley
    These days I hang out with my little cat colony, drink a lot of coffee, help clients solve life problems, support people who have been hurt by cult-like groups, host my local poetry society’s online gatherings, read, write, teach nonduality, and play with this expanded understanding of who we are and how it shows up. And it’s so simple. But simple doesn’t always come easy when we have a lifetime of conditioning on top. So, I’m here to help you uncover that simplicity, and reconnect with life.

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